Last Updated on November 10, 2022 by Kayla
In a world that tells you to “hustle,” “do all the things,” and “never miss a Monday,” it’s easy to lose yourself in the mix.
Women especially fall victim to the balancing act of managing the family calendar, putting out fires at work, and playing chauffeur for extracurricular activities. Yet, they still somehow figure out what the heck is for dinner every night. No wonder you’re exhausted!
Well, with the change in season comes changes in routine and priorities. This week, we’ll take a step back to examine how doing the right things trumps doing all the things!
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or lacking clarity in your daily life, this message is for you.
Remember that different seasons of life demand a change in priority. And, if anything is guaranteed, it’s that things will never stay the same. So remain flexible and consider the following.
Prioritize with purpose
I recently read Embrace Your Almost^ by Jordan Lee Dooley, which influenced much of today’s message.
On pages 153-154, Jordan references how the word “priority” didn’t become pluralized (if that’s a word 🤪) until the 1900s. Before that, priority meant ONE thing regarded as most important.
Nowadays, it seems like everything is deemed a “priority” or is of utmost importance. Or is it? To you, anyways.
Consider your current season of life. What is your ONE priority right now? Perhaps it’s your health, achieving financial freedom, or fostering strong relationships in your home and community.
Once you’ve determined your top priority and defined why it deserves center attention, your choices become easier to make. Set your compass to the newfound priority and watch the magic happen!
Do just enough
When you choose to focus on your ONE top thing, you sacrifice attention for other areas of life.
This isn’t a bad thing, but to prevent overwhelm and burnout, you’ve got to pick something to suck at. Or, at a minimum, choose which tasks go on the back burner.
Let’s say, for example, that health is your ONE priority, and your reason is to be more active with your family and stop living life on the sidelines.
Using health as your compass for decision making, you determine to cancel your Netflix subscription and, instead, opt for walks in the evening. You might also decide to minimize stress at work by delegating tasks or saying “no” to side projects that distract you from your ONE priority.
Suppose you deemed financial security as your ONE priority. In that case, you might forego your plans for a kitchen remodel or skip the Starbucks drive-thru to pay off lingering student loan debt.
As a bonus, when you stand firmly aligned with your ONE priority and say things like, “No, thank you. That’s not a priority for me right now,” people will respect your decision, and you reinforce yourONE Thing^ – which is another excellent book by the way!
Lastly, the comparison trap – something we all struggle with.
Again, in a world where we’re told to do all the things because we can, doesn’t mean we should. Just because so-and-so did it, doesn’t mean you have to.
Using your ONE priority as a compass helps set realistic expectations and set up for the life you want to live – not the imaginary glammed-up life of someone else.
Each person lives through unique circumstances and encounters their own challenges. You can’t judge what you don’t understand. You can’t assume a person’s upbringing, mental demons, or personal health issues.
On the outside, everything may look honky dory, but everyone struggles with something. So show compassion for everyone, even if it seems they’ve got it better than you.
Words from the Wise
“No one is behind; we’re all just in different places.”
-Jordan Lee Dooley, author of Embrace Your Almost
Celebrating your success and accomplishments isn’t easy when you constantly compare yourself to others. Life ebbs and flows for everyone – no exceptions, and someone else’s success doesn’t make you a failure.
Think about this. You’re likely in a position that someone, somewhere out there, dreams of. You’re living their dream life — the car, the mortgage, the kids, the career, the perfect mate, etc.
Unfortunately though, you can’t enjoy it because you’re fixated on the next person and what they’re doing.
… As my father-in-law says, “Keep an eye on your own bobber.” 🎣